With the holidays
coming up, many of us will be traveling. One thing to consider is preparedness-
what to expect and what to do when the unexpected happens.
Speaking of traveling,
many other passengers and I were at the whim of a toddler who was fighting off
their parents for the duration of our 4.5-hour flight, just two rows ahead.
There was nowhere to go and nothing to do about the time passing- the screaming
and crying continued.
Passengers requested
headphones, and flight attendants attempted to console the child. But my
thought was that the parents probably felt more frustrated than anyone.
What suggestions would
I have made, or what could have been done differently from the get-go? I’m
going to focus on setting expectations for your child before a trip begins.
You can start planning
for smooth travels well in advance if your child(ren) is new to
traveling. Here are some more tips for the road:
- Start by making a list of things ahead of time.
It sounds so simple,
but sometimes we overlook it. Put your list together a few weeks ahead of time
when it comes to planned traveling, not a few days. Consider if it’s worthwhile
to have duplicates of items like headphones, games, or snacks.
2. Model, practice, and role-play with your child(ren) to
help set expectations.
As the parent or
caregiver, model the appropriate behavior(s) you expect to see
while traveling by demonstrating. Practice implies that you
allow opportunities for your child(ren) to engage in that behavior until they
have mastered the behavior. Then, role-play your travel
expectations for whoever is involved in ingraining the desired behavior.
Don’t forget to make
it fun! Remember to reinforce appropriate behaviors using preferred items,
activities, and food when paired with behavior-specific praise.
3. Try some antecedent strategies.
Mark the date on a
calendar. A couple of weeks
before the trip begins, point out to your child that you will be taking a long
car ride on that day.
Practice riding in the
car. Point out that the car
ride marked on the calendar will be like many of the typical rides you take,
but longer.
Talk about “car
codes.” Model, practice,
and role-play precisely what you expect on your average car ride. What are your
expectations? Quiet voices, singing along to the radio, playing games?
Make sure to reinforce
using behavior-specific praise your child when they participate appropriately
in the role-play (i.e., “I love
the way you practiced your car voice!”).
Set up the back seat. You know your kids best!
- Stowaway plenty of toys, activities, and snacks.
- Drape a reusable bag over the head of the seat in front
of them.
- Have options for your kiddo(s) with their preferred
items.
Taking a flight
somewhere instead? Similar to car rides, it may be helpful to introduce your
child to the basics of flying:
- If possible, introduce your child to the airport in
advance. You can park and walk through
the baggage check or claim areas outside of security at many airports.
Introducing them to a new or less-frequented environment is a way to
expose them gradually. If you don’t have time to introduce them to the
airport, show them pictures and videos of the airport instead.
- Model, practice, and role-play your expectations. Make sure you feel your child has learned the
appropriate behaviors they should engage in at the airport before taking
them there.
- Make sure your child(ren) has a “personal item” on the
plane. That includes favorite snacks
and travel-friendly toys or activities. It doesn’t hurt to pack an extra
set of something - you never know when something can go missing!
But what happens if my
child starts to escalate? In
ABA, we are constantly trying to anticipate problematic
behaviors to prevent them from occurring. But, unfortunately, we can’t always
predict when the car will get stuck in traffic, or the flight will get
delayed.
Here’s what you should
do to help your child(ren) calm down:
- Provide reinforcement when you “catch” your child being
good throughout the ride. For
some kids, this is praise. For others, it’s an extra cookie, especially if
siblings get under each other’s skin in close quarters for extended
periods.
- Pit-stops are worth it, even if they only add an extra
5 minutes. Check-in with your child(ren),
get some fresh air or simulate them with physical activity.
If your methods aren’t
working, stay calm:
- Minimize your attention and try to ignore problematic
behavior. This can be tough, given you may be in a car or on a
plane.
- Redirect your child to a neutral activity
- Provide choice by presenting options. Refrain from
asking what they want but offer alternatives.
- Provide reinforcement when they have a calm body or
voice.
- Allow time for de-escalation.
Although traveling is
a lot easier said than done, it pays off to plan. If you’re like me, you’re
waiting until the day before the big trip to pack everything together and
forget something obvious. If we do that when it involves children, especially
those with different needs, it can affect the entire trip.
Be a planner, think
ahead, and start making that list weeks in advance. Of course, there will be
times that a trip must be taken without much notice, but practicing these tips
can help.
Next time you’re on
the road, I hope you’ll remember all that you need and your worries will be at
ease!
Thanks for reading,
Danielle
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